To all married freelancers

[adderslj]

How the heck do you manage to write with your wife/husband/SO about?

It feels so damn odd sat here alone in the study while Lorna does other things in the house and garden. I imagine I'll get over it in time, but right now, it's hard.

Comments

[tenzil.livejournal.com]

Like Jim M, I was married and had kids before I even started. It's impossible for me to write while the kids are awake and around, but once they're in bed I'm okay. Ellen's presence doesn't bug me when I'm writing -- and as often as not, she's four feet away, also writing.

This will sound stupid, but we occasionally IM one another or talk on a mud rather than speak out loud, when we're both writing. It disrupts our train of thought less than actual speech.

[slog.livejournal.com]

that's not stupid at all. I work with my SO, so "speaking" over the various methods provided by the internet is actually easier because we have a literal frame of reference to go back to in the conversation.

Plus, written text does take up a different part of the brain than spoken, leading to the feeling of unbroken thought. I prefer typing myself because I spend the time to think things through instead of just the normal mouthing off ;-)